your biggest crush should be on yourself, you should always go out of your way to do little things to put a smile on your face, make sure you’re happy and confident just like you would do to someone else you care for, because when you have that sort of consideration for yourself it’s so much easier to give to other people
Part of recovery is feeling sad, or angry, or hopeless, or negative, or “fat,” or anxious, or uncomfortable, and sitting with those feelings without hurting yourself to change that.
Recovery isn’t all about feeling happy. Yes, you will feel joy, but the ultimate goal is to be able to feel all of those feelings (even the “bad” ones) and be okay with that.
It’s okay to not be okay. Just don’t hurt yourself.
So goddamn important ***
I hope you are giving yourself enough food and water. I hope you are eating yummy ice cream when you want it and skipping the gym to hang out with your friends sometimes. I hope you are not letting anyone tell you how to live and removing the toxic people from your life. I hope you are making the best decisions for yourself and taking care of yourself in every way. I hope you are happy.
You deserve to be happy.
You deserve to take care of yourself.
You deserve to be loved and love yourself.
You deserve to recover.
You deserve to live.
in a healthy, close relationship of any kind, when something upsets you, you need to bring it up. as soon as possible, even. cultivate an environment in which you both can talk about things that upset you, with the utmost attention to everyone’s feelings. it’s a really simple thing to do but it’s a thing i’ve been working on for a while and i’m getting actual nice things happening as a result